Men's health blog

July 8, 2011


Filed under: Cancer — admin @ 5:48 pm

When people begin to look at ways they may have participated in their development of cancer, it is a good idea to seek the aid and support of a trained counselor or therapist. Many times, just asking for help is the first step in breaking a “rule” one learned in early childhood and establishing a more healthy way of responding to stress. Unfortunately, many of us grew up with a culturally induced reluctance to seek help for emotional problems. Yet if we are diagnosed with a severe illness, we do not feel embarrassed or ashamed to seek the help of a physician who has spent many years learning about the body. Neither should we feel embarrassed about enlisting the help of a professional to learn the ways in which stress has played a role in our illness.Most of our patients who go through this process of self-examination see important links between their emotional states and the onset of their disease, as well as the ways they participated in these emotional states. But, having seen how their beliefs and behaviors in response to stress may have contributed, some begin to feel guilty about their actions in the past. You may have similar feelings, so we would like to give you the same advice we give our patients.First, it is not our intent, nor is it desirable, for you to feel guilty for having recognized that you’ve participated in your disease. There is a difference between being “to blame” for something and having “participated” in it. It makes no sense to blame persons living in this society for becoming ill in light of the rules they were taught for dealing with their emotions and feelings. (Few individuals in our culture have been taught how to deal with emotions and feelings appropriately.) Further, blame suggests a person consciously knew better and yet decided to respond or act in a self-damaging way. That is certainly not true of people who respond to stress by developing a physical illness. Like most people in our culture, you were probably not even aware of a link between emotional states and illness. Thus, the ways in which you did participate are almost certain to have been a result of unconscious beliefs and habitual behavior.It is a particularly sad course of events, that many times those people who most steadfastly and responsibly attempt to live up to cultural rules develop the most serious illnesses. The literature describing the emotional aspects of cancer is replete with examples characterizing cancer patients in general as “too good to be true”—people who are kind, considerate, unselfish, and pleasant in the face of all adversity.Individuals who begin to accept responsibility for influencing the state of their health deserve the greatest of congratulations. Not only are they willing to begin the process of exploring their own attitudes, emotions, and feelings—and the ways these contribute to their response to stressful situations—but they are also finding the courage to stand up to the cultural rules they were taught and to reject those that are not conducive to health.The real point of a self-examination is to turn up clues on how you can participate in health through a process of recognizing and changing self-destructive beliefs. If you have participated in the onset of the disease, you also have the power to participate in your recovery.*35\347\2*

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